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17,897 Days

As I look back on another year, these reflections on turning 49 feel different from any milestone before. This birthday isn’t just about the “Week of Ben” celebrations, it’s about perspective. From conversations with Kailyn about life and death, to lessons on why time feels faster as we age, to the simple rules I try to live by, this is my chance to capture a snapshot of where I am today. A life lived at 110%, full of memories, friendships, and gratitude, and a reminder that every year adds wisdom, permanence, and new reasons to be thankful.

Change

Change is something that is almost inevitable. Death and Taxes . . . and change. Personally, I fight change every day. I like consistency, but no matter how hard I try, change occurs daily.

Perspective

Perspective is something that’s difficult to see/understand because when you’re “in the moment”, it’s difficult to see your life and experience unbiased. It’s something that

10 Things I Tell Kailyn

Throughout my parenting career, Kailyn and I have had several talks about life, love and happiness. Here are 10 Things I Tell Kailyn that will hopefully serve as “thought-starters”. This isn’t a list of “THINGS YOU SHOULD TELL YOUR KIDS”, because I think those lists I’ve found online take on the “one shoe fits all” mindset. Every family is different as is every child and relationship. Here are some things I say to my K that I’d like to share with you.

Words of Wisdom

After 42 years on earth, I’ve been blessed to live a life of “wins” and an equal amount of (if not more) “losses”. Along the way I picked up a few “Words of Wisdom” that I’d like to share with you, along with a few stories. I hope you can relate and enjoy them!